20 responses to “How Will You Care For Your Aging Parents?”

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  Sam Fisher CT September 14th, 2009 at 21:24

  I owe it to my folks for the trouble they took to bring me up….therefore I’ll try my best to give them the care they gave me when the time comes…..I want to be the care giver but we’ll have to see depending on how my prospective significant other feels about it etc

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  carrie September 14th, 2009 at 23:00

  Well, my parents are deceased, but when my dad was ill I arranged for hospice, in the hospital, because he was embarrassed to have me do Hygiene on him, even though I was a LPN at that time. I would have broght him home because I promised him no nursing home. I would put grandma in a home though, she said she would prefer that . My brother does not care one way or the other, he wiil help as much as he can as long as poop is not involved.

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  True Brit September 15th, 2009 at 04:33

  My mother has already sorted it out, thank goodness. She moved into a complex which specialises in care for the elderly – she was far too young to live in such a place, really. But she’s not afraid of the future.
  I work with many elderly people who refuse to leave their homes. They are fragile and should not be on their own. They also are very demanding of their children, afraid of the future, and don’t want to die. They know their body is letting them down.
  I talk to the children, many of whom are exhausted. When your mother is 96, you could be 75,and no longer young yourself. I’ve seen how the care of the elderly takes its toll, not only on the health of the child, but also strains the marriage beyond endurance.
  I think my mother is very wise. She has her children nearby, but the main care if she becomes frail is on professional people.
  I hope I am this sensible when the time comes.

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  Louise C September 15th, 2009 at 11:20

  After my father died, my brother and I took turns going to my mother’s house, doing her shopping and cooking, etc (she wsa crippled with arthritis).
  After five years, she decided she could no longer manage at home (her arthritis ahd got worse, and she could no longer get out of bed without help, get to the loo etc), and she went into a nursing home. Nobody ‘put her’ in one, she went in of her own accord.

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  Crazy 4 Cats! September 15th, 2009 at 13:43

  It depends on a lot of factors, because right now we’re moving around frequently due to he’s military. If we’re settled and have the room, I would take my parents in, they took my husband in after his mom kicked him out of the house at 16. Don’t ask why, its a long story. If it was his mother, I have issues, read above. I’d leave it up to my hubby where his mother goes.
  IF we didn’t have the room, and were settled, I would find a nice nursing home for my parents that was near us, so I could try and help take care of them. My dad’s parents took care of his grandpa till like the last month of his life, then he was in a nursing home. Call me old fashioned and silly.

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  angeljen September 15th, 2009 at 18:05

  My parents took care of me when I was young so I will take care of them when they are old.
  I love my parents and they have done so much for me. I volunteer at a children’s hospice and help out at an old people’s home in my spare time so I know it would be really hard but I have to at least try my best as that is the least that they deserve.
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  The Lorax September 15th, 2009 at 20:25

  I was caregiver to both my parents when they were ailing. Honestly I never thought of doing anything differently. They were home up until they passed away.
  The only issue I had with it was at the time my daughter was 4 and with me and her watching my father go through a horrible ordeal and how she would handle it.

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  Know It All September 15th, 2009 at 21:59

  I’m doing it now. My brother (cute li’l kid) is still in school, so he’s still partially dependent on them. Between my brother and I, we take care of my parents. We wouldn’t and don’t have any plans of sending them to a home. My parents, IF/WHEN they die, will die in my arms…

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  Baba Yaga September 16th, 2009 at 01:43

  My mother and my in-laws are dead. We’re trying to convince my father to move in with us, where I can look after him but he refuses to move back up North. He likes that god-awful heat in Florida. If he needed a nursing home, I’d put him in one.

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  monmichk September 16th, 2009 at 02:48

  If I can afford it, I would rather they live in their own houses and I get a nurse to visit every day. I won’t put my mom in a nursing home at all unless I had no other choice. My dad, I’m not so sure what I’d do.

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  ♫ Mad Luv ♫ September 16th, 2009 at 06:35

  i’m an only child and my parents never married so it would be very hard for me to take on that responsilby plus my field knows nothing about medical i don’t feel qualified to care for them. but would do my best in conjunction with a home nurse/

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  Erin September 16th, 2009 at 11:12

  If I am able, I will care for them myself. A nursing home would be absolutely the last resort for me. I’ll get a visiting nurse, or a live-in caregiver if I have to.

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  Lightnin September 16th, 2009 at 14:56

  Whatever I can do I will do. But sometimes a parent cannot be cared for at home, and they need professional medical and nursing care.

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  R. Gaspari September 16th, 2009 at 17:21

  In my culture we don’t use nursing homes or hospice. When my father was dying I bathed and took care of him as if he were my child. When he died, he died in his own bed.

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  am1432 September 16th, 2009 at 22:22

  They’ll be with me. I’ll hire people to help if I can’t do it alone, but they’ll never be in a nursing home. Ever.

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  BroD September 17th, 2009 at 02:49

  My mother married someone who is 23 years younger than her, so HE can take care of her. My father will go quickly; we’re not a family of lingerers.

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  Katiana says. September 17th, 2009 at 04:38

  My dad, yes. I would make sure that he is where he wants to be and has all that he needs.

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  Rio Madeira September 17th, 2009 at 07:33

  I would probably pull a Frasier Crane and hire an in-home worker. I’ll be living in a different country by then, anyway.

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  The Fury Of Gohan - Part II September 17th, 2009 at 09:21

  I don’t know,……maybe I will not take care if I end up marrying…….
  I know its wrong, but I don’t know…….

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  Nique Ta Mere September 17th, 2009 at 11:01

  I’m just gonna tie the old lady up in the backyard. She’s ok with it, but honestly it’s not like she has much of a choice.